So here's the deal: you and your
significant other are
separated for a time period, say, 2 years, be it for school, business,
whatever. You're close enough to
visit every couple weeks for a few days, but that's about it. Money
is tight, so you can't have many long distance bills, and you don't
want your calls to her (or him) to be just for phone sex, so what
do you do?
[Ed note: 10 Verbosity style points to anyone knowing the
origin of the above list.]
But cybersex?! that's for those
45 year old pedophiles, right?
Well, not always. Here are the hows and whys of cybersex with a simple
talk client. (not neccessarily in that order)
WHY
You and your honey have been together
for a decent amount of time, and
you think that this may be the one. I mean, you don't want
to blow this. You're scared that because of something like a frustrated
libido, you might lose this person. You need to keep your baby satisfied
in every way to make sure that she doesn't have wandering eyes.
Because you know that those words won't mean shit when you find
out she's hittin' it with a different guy every week, all because you
weren't giving her enough good lovin'. Plus, it will bring you both closer
and might inspire some bedroom hijinks when you do see her.
Even if you're not separated by distance,
another point of view is that if the
two of you want to refrain from sex until marriage, this is a great way
to let out sexual tension without breaking that ideal. Think about it,
you're both getting pretty sexually frustrated aren't you? Wouldn't it
be great to relieve that frustration with each other in a loving way
rather than taking a playboy (or playgirl) into the bathroom?
Cybersex can help an existing marriage
as well. It will give you the oportunity to play out fantasies that you
might not have to courage to do in real life. If you think that your sex
life is dull and the 'spark' is lost, cybersex will let you take on a
different personality and maybe you can open up a little more about that
S & M fantasy you've been dreaming about. [ ed. note: ick. but, to
each his own i guess... ] If you're too shy to ask or she's not
interested, maybe you'll both feel less threatened and be able to open
up a bit more online.
The best thing about cybersex is that
it's disease free, completely safe, and has far far less ramifications than
actual intercourse (i.e. pregnancy, trading morals for physical
gratification, etc.).
HOW
Now that you see that cybersex isn't
just for 45 year old pedophiles, here's how you're going to accomplish it.
Your first statement is, "But I don't have AOL!" Never fear, AOL
is not neccessary for cybersex, or for any internet chatting for that matter.
AOL is just the most well known for cybersex, but cybersex is possible from
many different points on the internet. There are several venues available such
as websites with programs designed for chat rooms,
but your disadvantage here is that you both may not have web access. Also, privacy is
not easy to come by. IRC is another possibility, but like chat rooms, anyone can wander
in and be a cyber voyeur unless you use DCC, so this is also a poor choice. Think of chat
rooms and IRC as the bars and clubs of the cyber world. These are the places where hard up
45 year old men go and be pedophiliac. And remember, that's just sleazy and gross. This
article is about helping an existing relationship between two people who love each other,
not just two strangers who want to get off. Besides, if you don't know the person you're
talking to, how do you know that it isn't a man pretending to be a woman? Plus these
are both slower since they have to relay through a common server. The
simplest and best
way to have cybersex is through a simple talk client.
If chat rooms and IRC are party lines,
then a talk
client is like making a direct phone call. The idea is that the computer you are logged
in at talks directly to the computer your partner is logged in at. Most likely you get
online via an ISP or through your school. Right now you may be saying "But all I have
is an email account through my school!" Don't get dissappointed just yet. If you have
an email account you most likely have a shell account, which is the best way to go about this.
If you log in to the machine and have a text interface and prompt, then it is probably
a shell account. Find out for sure if it is from a computer lab
assistant or the help desk. If it is, then you're in good shape. To connect to
someone else to talk you will want to use a program such as Talk.
Usually all you need is the other person's email
address. On most systems over the internet (or if you are logged in to the same
server) you can type finger person@email.address
and it will usually tell you if that person is logged in or not. If they are,
then it is a simple matter to type Talk
person@email.address. For example, if I was luser@wiw.org, and I
wanted to talk to Jane for a cyber quickie,
I would type talk jane@verbosity.wiw.org, and it will "ring"
her who will get a notice similar to this:
Say, though, that you have a dialup account and
can only get email through Eudora or Pegasus or a similar program. This means that
you can't log
in to your server directly. Bummer, right? Not at all. All you have to do is
download WinTalk or a similar program, and you too can join the exciting world
of cybersex. You don't have to telnet in or anything, you can chat from your
windows desktop.
Now that you've decided to do it and you know
how, let me give you a few pieces of advice...
Now that you've had this brief
tutorial, make a cyber date and go have a good time. But remember, it
isn't real. This is pretend, and it doesn't mean she neccessarily wants
to do it in real life. Be safe out there kiddies.
Message from Talk_Daemon@balance.wiw.org at 1:42 ...
talk: connection requested by luser@balance.wiw.org.
talk: respond with: talk luser@balance.wiw.org
Then all she needs to do is type talk luser@balance.wiw.org
and we would be on our way to the "back room" as it were.
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